15 May How to Change your Life with New Goals
It is always good to have a fresh start. This is what resolutions are for – to begin anew and try accomplishing what you failed to do during the year that had passed. However, you also need to have a clear direction when you plan to change your life.
Having a new set of goals will help you identify what you really need and want, versus what you thought you wanted. Some of the goals that you have set for yourself may not contribute to your growth. Thus, you must rethink your life choices. Here are some valuable tips on goal setting:
1. Keep a list of what you planned to do but failed on doing.
This list will give you a fresh perspective on “failed attempts” and goals that you decided to eradicate from your list. In the first column, write the goals that you had for the past year, and in the second column, write the reasons why you didn’t do them.
Be honest with your answers, as this is the only way for you to know what you really want. For instance, you wanted to learn a new language last year, but you didn’t do as planned because you thought it was not your priority at the moment.
2. From this “Failed Attempts” list, choose the ones that you are ready to push through THIS year.
Be realistic with your new list. Select the ones which you think you can complete before the year ends. Then write your reason for renewing these goals. If you want to take a stab at them again, it means that these plans are important to you. However, you have to make sure that you will achieve them.
3. Set specific objectives for each goal.
These specific objectives will guide you on what you should exactly do in your life. Whether your goal setting is centered on your career or your lovelife, these objectives provide you concrete steps to arrive at the bigger picture.
Suppose your goal is to save 300,000 bucks this year. You have to plan carefully how you would achieve this. Save 20 percent of your income every pay day. Start cooking your own meals instead of dining al fresco. Read all your books at home before you hoard another set of novels. Start small so that achieving your goals will be more realistic and feasible.
4. Set realistic goals for yourself.
Be honest about how you plan to achieve your goal. Deciding to stop smoking will not happen overnight. Getting a brand new car will not manifest at the flick of your fingers. You cannot have a swimmer’s body in a month IF you don’t swim anyway.
Being realistic means you are acknowledging all possible ways of achieving your goals, even if it meant a longer time of waiting. People who wish to have a slimmer waist before summer exercise a lot, and avoid taking a lot of calories. If your goals and your steps are not compatible, then achieving your goal will be reduced to nil.
5. Give yourself ample time to achieve your goals.
Whether it’s learning a new skill, or getting rich, you have to allot a certain period of time for you to work on your dreams. More important, it is you who decides how much time you need and how much you really want to achieve your goal. Ample time means you don’t stress yourself out, pressuring yourself to fill your plate so full, and you don’t dilly-dally either.
6. Keep a journal.
A journal helps you keep track of your progress. Your to-do list is one thing, but your chronicle of events is another. You may also use this journal to look back on certain patterns of behavior or circumstances, which will then aid you in analyzing what needs to be improved in your goal setting priorities
7. Set a system for yourself.
While some people are quite content hitting and missing their goals, it would be better if you can devise a strategy for yourself. Know your priorities. Top priorities should be dealt with first; your lesser goals can wait. You’d be amazed at how many goals you will be able to achieve towards the end of the year
8. Reward yourself for each goal met.
It’s a race and you have finally crossed the finish line. Now it’s time to congratulate yourself for a job well done. Some employees treat themselves to a spa or a poker game after they have completed a humongous task at work. Rewarding yourself energizes your spirit and makes you ready for the tasks the next day. It also motivates you to finish all the goals you have set.
9. Compare your old and new self.
Each time you achieve your goals, you improve yourself. This old and new self are the ones fit for comparison. Ergo, stop comparing yourself to others; they have set personalized goals and the way they look at their goals is different from yours. Comparing yourself to others will also make you feel dejected, especially when you haven’t achieved your own goals
10. Always keep your eyes on the prize.
This is not the reward that you give yourself after, but this is the end-all of your goal. For instance, people want to live a happy life. That is their ultimate goal. Their lesser goals include building a name for themselves, getting married, and owning a few properties. Whenever you feel tired of accomplishing your goals, stop for a while and think of the very reason you are doing it.
11. Give yourself a break from all the goal setting.
Too much of something is not good, no matter how noble your intentions are. You might find yourself getting all psyched up with goal setting and achieving them, that you forget to get some well-deserved R & R. Balance your needs and wants. Sure you want to do a lot in a short span of time, but you can’t really do that if you feel burned out.